The Fine Art of Small Talk: How To Start a Conversation, Keep It Going, Build Networking Skills -- and Leave a Positive Impression!
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Nationally recognized communication expert Debra Fine reveals the techniques and strategies anyone can use to make small talk-in any situation. Do you spend an abnormal amount of time hiding out in the bathroom or hanging out at the buffet table at social gatherings? Does the thought of striking up a conversation with a stranger make your stomach do flip-flops? Do you sit nervously through job interviews waiting for the other person to speak? Are you a -Nervous Ned or Nellie+ when it comes to networking? Then it's time you mastered The Fine Art of Small Talk.With practical advice and conversation -cheat sheets,+ The Fine Art of Small Talk will help you learn to feel more comfortable in any type of social situation, from lunch with the boss to an association event to a cocktail party where you don't know a soul.
back. However, I don’t wait to make sure the other person is friendly before I’m friendly in return. • When someone asks What’s new?, instead of saying Not much, I often talk about something exciting in my life. How did you do? If you’re like me, you probably still have some work to do. It takes effort and practice to change habits. I suggest that you write down one statement reflecting what you want to conquer. Focus on that one goal until you feel comfortable, and then move on to the
of those folks are petty criminals specializing in misdemeanors that can hurt a good gab session but can’t kill it. You have the skills to deal with these kinds of infractions. However, when you recognize one of the Most Wanted, exercise extreme caution. Even the most vigilant conversationalist can still get ambushed. You can even take down your own conversation, because the truth is, we each have a rap sheet. I’m a chronic interrupter when I don’t police myself. Chances are that unless you are
The ability to talk easily with anyone is a learned skill, not a personality trait. Acquiring it will help you develop rapport with people and leave a positive impression that lasts longer than an exchange of business cards. Here are a few tips business professionals can use to improve their small talk skills: • Be the first to say hello! • Introduce yourself. Act as if you’re the host and introduce new arrivals to your conversation partner or partners. • Smile first and always
Invitations like Would you like to get together sometime? are too vague. Be specific in order to receive a direct answer. Bob’s approach is to offer his potential date something specific for them to do together and, by the way, something that sounds like fun. At least for the first few dates, try to think of ideas that would appeal to your date rather than choosing something you’d like to do. Don’t think that just because you like to go to the races, she will, too, although many more women are
me in the conversation easily because he can’t get through the introductions. Don’t ever assume that someone who sees you infrequently will remember your name, especially when they see you out of context. You will remember the Realtor who spent a Sunday driving you around looking at houses easier than she will remember you, especially if you are in sweats at the gas station. Cut her some slack; offer your name when you say hello. 4 KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING! Remember, instead of